Q.I don’t have much self-esteem, and I know why – because in the past I allowed someone to take it from me.

Last year I married the most wonderful man who was a widower. Please help me – because I hate his late wife!

I could cope if they had been divorced and chosen not to be with each other. He tells me he’s never felt in his whole life as good as he does now with me – and I do believe him!

I know I’ve certainly never been so in tune with someone before either!

How do I get over my hatred of a dead woman?

I reckon it’s my own insecurities that are showing up here! I just love this man so very very much!!!!

A. You’re allowing a ‘ghost’ to torment your mind. I hear that you feel jealous of his past relationship – but we all have ‘past’ relationships and they are always in the ‘past’ for a reason.

Whatever he had with her will be very different to what you have with him now. Admittedly she [Read more…]