Q My husband won’t let me have another baby. When we got married five years ago we both agreed that we’d like at least two children together but now he’s changed his mind.
I’m an only child and I felt isolated and different from the other kids at school. I didn’t have any relatives nearby either and so I remember feeling sad about not having brothers and sisters like my friends had.
My husband is from a large family who all keep in touch – even though they don’t really get along that well.
Another child wouldn’t cost us any more as I still have all the stuff from my two year old that I can use again.
This is tearing me apart. I can’t sleep and I feel so angry at him for changing his mind. I don’t want to have an ‘accidental’ pregnancy – although I have thought about it – because I want him to love another child as I would, and not feel trapped or pressured into being a dad again. I’m making myself ill with worry about this. What can I do?
A You say he won’t let you have another baby – but this clearly isn’t all about you and what you want. He has different preferences to you – and these seem to have changed since you had an earlier agreement to have at least two children. Has he said ‘never’ or just ‘not yet’? [Read more…]