Q After many years of emotional struggle I’ve made the decision to have no further contact with my parents because of the way they’ve treated me since they adopted me as a baby.
I don’t know my birth parents and so this decision feels all the harder as I’m rejecting the people who took me in after my own mother rejected me.
I know I need the physical and emotional distance from my nasty mum and aggressive dad (although calling them mum and dad still doesn’t feel ‘right’ for me).
What I’m wondering about is this – will my having no contact allow me to heal from 25 years of physical and emotional abuse?
A Some children of abusive parents opt for low contact – whereby they have less contact or they withdraw emotionally and aren’t ‘fully there’.
That seems to be a well intentioned first step; and if it doesn’t work then there’s the option of having no contact whatsoever.
Expect to doubt yourself and feel isolated either way. [Read more…]