Q I’ve just found out that I’m pregnant. It’s a shock because it’s not been planned. I have a lovely husband who’s happy and excited about it. He knows very little about my family and I haven’t told him much about my childhood. What worries me now is that I might be like my mother was towards me, and be cruel to my own baby. Do you think this will happen? Is there anything I can do to stop it happening. I’ve been scared to have a baby in case I turned into my mother and made my child feel as bad and unhappy as I was as a kid.
A Many years ago I had a unplanned pregnancy too, and I’d also had an abusive childhood. I feared that I might pass the poison from my parents onto my own child. On the occasion that this happened it shocked me so much that I decided to do something about it. [Read more…]