Q Since having our first baby 8 months ago our relationship has gone downhill. I’ve tried talking to him but he says I’m just imagining it and everything’s fine. But I know it isn’t, and that it’s not all in my head.
He seems to be pulling away from us. He’s moody and snappy, and is ‘busy’ at work and not getting home until our little girl is ready for bed… and I’m exhausted by then. He’s started to do more work at the weekends too as he says we need the money – but we don’t.
We used to have a laugh and things used to be fun and we were a ‘team’ but that isn’t the case now. I’m also afraid he may be having an affair (our sex life is virtually non-existent since I was pregnant). I’ve mentioned counselling but he nearly hit the roof! I’m really worried and sad by it all. Has our baby ruined our relationship?
A Changed your relationship? Yes, for sure. New demands, new stress, new experiences.
Ruined it? A baby can’t ruin anything – we grown ups do that all by ourselves… even if we’re not fully aware of the reasons for doing so. [Read more…]