Q I’ve been keen on a boy-band for years and have lots of their stuff. My friend has found out that they’ll be doing a gig near us in a few months time, and she wants to buy me a ticket or my birthday and to go there with her.
I told my fiance and he went ballistic, then sulky and ignored me for two days! We are now talking again, and he says he feels jealous and that I won’t still find him attractive if I go and see the band. I can see them on TV anyway so what’s the difference? I do still want to go but he’s trying to change my mind and it’s all put a dampener on things. Why is he behaving like this?
A I can’t be sure – but it sounds like his self-esteem is a bit shaky and this situation has reminded him of that.
It’s not your responsibility to make him feel better about himself and it’s not your obligation to change your plans and ignore your own desires, wants, needs or preferences to make him feel happier. [Read more…]