Q I’ve always been a bit over the top when it comes to personal hygiene – and my doctor has advised me to stop washing and douching so much before and after sex because it’s making sex painful (and I’ve been getting sore and swollen). I get paranoid about being smelly. I know I can’t be because I’m uber clean and use wipes, scented body lotion, talc etc. This is now becoming a problem with my partner because I can’t be spontaneous and have to visit the bathroom for a while before sex and again afterwards – when we should be enjoying the mood. On one level I know I’m creating this problem myself, but on another I just can’t stop doing this in case I were to smell and turn him off me.
A By being ‘over prepared’ you are also under-prepared for the moment-by-moment experience of sex. I think your concerns are shared by many women – although perhaps not to the same extent. [Read more…]