Q I seem to over-react to those slushy TV and internet images and sayings about happy loving families. Don’t they realise or care how hurtful these are to those of us who had a miserable childhood with mean and nasty parents?
On one level I think good luck to them with their happy family, but on another I feel envious and wonder how much different my own life would have been if I’d had parents that I felt loved by and who I wanted to visit and spend time with.
It’s not a major problem – I just wonder why I haven’t got over it and why I get a pang of sadness and anger in my gut and heart when I see or read these things.
A It’s not surprising that you have a deeper visceral response to these messages which are so different to your own experience.
Our subconscious mind is where we store our early memories, and it’s closely related to our ‘out-of-awareness’ bodily functions. It’s our bodies that are the first to be impacted by emotional (as well as physical) trauma. Anything that reminds us of that will be felt in the body before we realise it with our conscious mind. [Read more…]