Q It seems that all my life I’ve been there for everybody else, family and friends, yet whenever I need some help and support no-one’s there for me. They all know me as being strong and standing up for others when they need it, but what they don’t see is that I could do with some back up myself sometimes.
I feel drained by everyone else’s problems and needs and I feel like walking away.
My parents are dead now but they were both strong dominant people and I just kept the peace at home and tried to make them and my little sister happy. I’ve had enough, and I’m getting sick of not getting what I want in my life. I know that sounds selfish but it’s how I feel.
A It sounds as though your ‘inner child’ has been focusing upon being a good and helpful girl – and yet not been appreciated or rewarded for it.
As children, particularly in troubled homes, we soon learn that in order to be seen as OK we have to behave in a certain way. A way that might be at odds with how we’re really feeling. [Read more…]