Q We’ve been married for two years and I want to have a baby. We can’t seem to talk or connect on any deep level and I feel lonely with him. In many ways my husband is a good man and I do love him, as much as he will ‘allow’ me to. I know I’m not a needy person but I do need more from him than he seems capable of giving. I didn’t really notice the problem until we got married – perhaps because we didn’t live together, and I’m very outgoing and seemed to make up for his ‘reserved’ nature. I’m now thinking of ending the marriage and looking for someone else who I can have a deeper connection with and to be the father of my children. I dread to think what sort of dad my husband would be… aloof, cold, unemotional. I couldn’t handle that. Shall I leave him and look for someone else?
A It’s interesting that his character and personality don’t appear to have changed since the early days… did you think/hope/expect that they would?
If so, I can imagine how disappointed you must be… but you did bring that upon yourself (as many of us do) by not seeing what’s there, and instead seeing the ‘potential’ for what could be there (note: magic wand may be required!). [Read more…]