Q I’m a single parent and my little girl is now a few months old. I got pregnant by accident and I’m not with the dad any longer. I went ahead with the pregnancy alone and I do love my daughter – I just don’t love being a mum.

I’m also a business women and I’m established enough to have others to run things for me whilst I’ve been on maternity leave. My business has been my ‘baby’ for seven years now and I need to get back to work. My brain feels like it’s turning to jelly!

I feel so guilty at leaving my little girl with my mum and my sister – although I know she’s in safe hands. This dilemma has been holding me back from really pushing myself and my business forward in the way that’s needed. Am I being selfish? What should come first, my business or my baby?

A It’s not about what comes first, as much as where you want to put your energy and time.

Not every woman is cut out for business and not every mother is cut out for being a stay at home mum.

It’s important to know where you function best, as well as ensuring that your daughter has strong emotional attachments to whoever is caring for her. She needs to feel safe and loved – and that doesn’t have to be from you alone. [Read more…]