Q I have feelings for a co-worker who’s a lot older than me. I can’t tell if he feels the same way about me or is just being friendly. Maybe he just doesn’t know how to tell me to get lost and to leave him alone.
I’ve only had one boyfriend and he took all the self respect I had from me, so guys and me don’t mix well. But this guy would be perfect if only he felt the same way I do – and if only I knew how to approach him, and maybe build a connection, and possibly date him. But I just don’t know how to get to know guys like that or how to be close to someone.
My dad was never around and I find it hard to be close to anyone – so usually I’m lonely and my own best friend and company.
Really I am asking – how do you build some sort of relationship with a guy you like – even if it doesn’t end in you dating him (although ideally you’d like it to end up like that)?
A I’m saddened to hear that in the past you weren’t robust enough to prevent someone from ‘taking all the self-respect you had’. You probably didn’t know any better back then, or didn’t have the personal skills necessary to stop that from happening to you.
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