Q This week I’ve seen lots of people on Facebook posting pictures of themselves as a child – for their profile picture – and it hit a nerve for me.
It made me realise that I don’t have any childhood photos of me. Let alone happy ones.
I don’t know why but I do know my mum and dad were always at war and they both hit me and my sister a lot, and we were taken into foster care on and off. I don’t remember much about those foster parents.
It makes me sad to think that they thought so little of us that they didn’t even take our photos, or if they did that they didn’t bother to keep them.
They’re both dead now and the house has been cleared – but still no photos were found. Why would they not have photos of their kids?
A When I saw this new trend on Facebook I wondered to myself ‘what about those who’ve had a troubled childhood and toxic parents who don’t have happy childhood photos?’ So your message and question really struck a chord with me.
I can’t give you an absolute reason why there are no photos of you or your sister. I can only guess that your parents marriage and family life were so unhappy that they didn’t want a reminder of it in photographs. Fake smiles and posed family shots make the pain all the more acute. [Read more…]