Q I know this is a common problem but that doesn’t help me. I’ve put on quite a few stones in weight since having my first child five years ago. I now have three small children who keep me very busy. I don’t get around to eating proper meals apart from quick snacks throughout the day – although I do like some chocolate at night time. It’s as my treat for getting through the day!
I feel ashamed of my body now and I hate the way I look. My boyfriend says he doesn’t mind but I think he’s just being kind. He fancied me as a size 12 so how can he fancy me now I’m nearly double that?! I want my old body back again. I can cope with the stretch mark scars but not these rolls of fat. I get so tired all the time and know my weight doesn’t help. I don’t have the time or money for gym membership or personal trainers. What do you suggest?
A Yes it is a common problem – but not a universal one. My main feeling is empathy for your struggle. It’s hard enough being a mum without having this on your mind too.
Remember – without feeling any guilt – that you’re modelling to your children your own self-care, self-esteem, pride and confidence in yourself – yes, even though they are still small. They pick up how you feel more than what you do or say. [Read more…]