Q I know it sounds mean but I’m ashamed of my parents. My girlfriend is pregnant and I haven’t told them yet because I know they’ll try and take over, giving her advice and telling us what to do and how to do it.
They’ve always been like this and I left home at 17 to get away from their control and bullying.
We were supposed to visit them at Christmas but I managed to get out of it, and they’re now expecting us to go for New Year. My girlfriend wants to meet them – she doesn’t know what she’s letting herself in for!
She comes from a very different type of family from me and thinks I must be over-reacting. I know I’m not and that they’ll ruin things for us if I let them.
A The answer is in your last comment… if you ‘let them’. So, what can you do that doesn’t exclude them entirely, yet sets adult boundaries around what is acceptable to you, and what isn’t? [Read more…]