Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow – Coaching Programme

It’s Your Time To Feel Free And Empowered To ‘Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow’!

Cast Off Your Father's Shadow Coaching Programme

 

  • Do you dread having to deal with your father because he always manages to make you feel bad about yourself – and he can shatter your state of mind in an instant with his dominant attitude?

  • Are you constantly seeking his approval and for him to show you that he likes you – even though you never get it – and you hate that you still keep trying to be ‘good enough’ for him?

  • Does he still control your life and hold all the power – making you jump when he says ‘jump’? You don’t want to obey him, but you’ve been trained to – otherwise he’ll make your life hell!

  • Do you realise that you still have ‘father issues’ that blight your life and get in your way – even if you don’t have contact with him any more? Maybe his behaviour as you were growing up still casts a shadow over your adult life.

None of this is the behaviour of a loving parent, and it’s exhausting trying to get what you need from a father who won’t give it to you.

It’s time to let go of the dream that he’ll ever change and mellow with age; or that he’ll miraculously become more like the dad you’ve always wished he would be…someone kind, considerate, loving and light – someone like your friends’ dads. The dad you wish you could have had.

Sadly you can’t change his behaviour, but you can change how you react to it and how it affects you and the rest of your life.

Imagine going into conversations with him in the future where you feel strong, empowered and resilient; and you feel proud of yourself for the way you’ve handled him. You’ll feel back in control and standing your ground.

He may be physically bigger and stronger than you, but you can become psychologically and emotionally bigger and stronger than him!

It’s definitely time to protect yourself from his onslaughts and to get for yourself what you need – to be able to cope with his behaviour and not let it impact you like it has done for years.

Maxine Harley - MSc Psychotherapy

Maxine Harley – MSc Psychotherapy

Believe me I know your pain – both personally (for over 40 years!) and professionally with 20 years experience.

I’ve not only healed my own emotional wounds and put my father in his place; I’ve also helped many other women to do the same and to make peace with their troubled past, and to redesign their relationship with their father.

Sometimes that has meant women having to walk away from an abusive father, other times the relationship became healed.

I have a Masters Degree in Psychotherapy and over the last 20 years I’ve learnt how to guide women like you from utter despair – and in some cases being on the brink of suicide – to instead feeling strong, robust and determined to keep up the massive gains they’d made in radically shifting the effect their father has on their life.

It’s been a great honour to be a part of their transformation, and I want to share that process with you too.

Not in the usual 6 months of one-to-one weekly therapy, but in the new more condensed therapeutic coaching programme I have created for you.

No need to sign up for 6 months of weekly unstructured therapy where the transformation is so far ahead into the future that you can’t even see it. Working through my proven Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow™ process I’ll guide you step-by-step through the powerful changes that you can start applying immediately to experience a new reality which sees you recover your strength and power in your relationship with your father.

I know that there will be times when sticking to this new way of managing your relationship could be difficult for you, particularly in the face of one of his outbursts. So I’ll be right by your side to support you over the next few months as you undergo your transformation.

I can help you to protect yourself from his barbed attacks, to give yourself what you need to be able to cope with his behaviour; as well as giving you the steps to take towards a calmer, happier life – free from any further emotional wounding from him.

I know that you’ve probably been conditioned to believe that he ‘isn’t the problem’, and so it must be you that’s at fault.

You might even be wondering if your dad is really that bad after all.
Deep down you know the truth.

You have a choice – to continue to make generous allowances for him and deny your own truth and feelings… or to change the way things are for you from now on.

Introducing my ‘Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow’ ™ coaching programme

During this therapeutic coaching programme you will discover

  • How to regain your own personal power, control and mental clarity, and not get hooked into his abusive drama
  • How to have more emotional resilience – so that you’re not being triggered into being a submissive compliant child for him… the scared and weak child he could so easily dominate and manipulate
  • A path to detoxify and release your painful feelings – and to feel ‘neutral’ towards him
  • How to reclaim the time you’ve been wasting worrying about the next ‘phone call, visit, or argument; or the time wasted recalling painful memories of him throughout your life

When you invest in healing your emotional wounds, making peace with your past, and empowering yourself for the future using this unique psychotherapeutic coaching programme you can expect:-

  • 8 clear and relevant modules which form the overall recovery and healing process. Each with an audio recording, and worksheet to accompany them

You will 8 have Skype/phone calls with me for support as you work through each of the 8 modules

  • You will work step by step at your own pace and in the privacy of your own home. There is no pressure put upon you. I’m certainly not going to repeat your father’s pressure and demands! Instead I aim to be much more like a guiding caring parent and watch you take your new steps towards freedom.

There is also the option to continue to work with me after the programme – using Skype/phone calls – for as long as you want to. I won’t abandon you, but will keep in contact for as long as that’s helpful to you.

The 8 steps of the ‘Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow ™ Coaching Programme are:-

  • Who Is Your Father? Exposing his behaviour within the family context, the reasons behind it and its affects upon you
  • Calling On Your Allies – both internal and external. Building the support network you need
  • Your Inner Child’s Needs – cherishing them and soothing their wounds
  • Getting Some Space – new skills for self-protection and detachment from the drama
  • Telling It Like It Is – allowing yourself the voice you never had and expressing your pain and needs
  • Father Interview – getting to the bottom of why he’s treated you as he has; and finding a new and liberating perspective
  • Healing Grief – for what you lost and what you never had
  • Re-parenting Your Inner Child – new boundaries, self-discipline and emotional resilience. Taking off the false mask and getting re-acquainted with the new you and the life you can now create. Rehearsing and repeating new patterns of thinking feeling and behaviour

A unique coaching programme like this has immense long-term quality of life value.

How can you put a price upon re-parenting yourself and having a better relationship with your father (whether he is alive or has passed away)?

The benefits will be a calmer happier life for you, your partner and any children you may have!

In order to complete the programme fully you need to have completed the first two steps to help you Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow. They are:

STEP 1 (FREE)

COYFS - SHIELD Yourself From Your Toxic Father

✓ Learn How To Stop Your Father Controlling Your Thoughts And Feelings – By Using Your S.H.I.E.L.D

✓ Find Out How To Stop His Repeating Patterns And Expectations From Trapping You

✓ Discover How To Get The Head-Space, Confidence, And Courage You Need When Dealing With Him



 

STEP 2

Detox From Your Toxic Father

✓ Discover How To Release The Years Of Accumulated Toxins From The Relationship With Your Father

 

✓ Escape The Control He Has Over Your Thoughts And Your Life

 

✓ Learn How To Release The Emotional Trauma Once And For All

All this and more for just £3.99 when you BUY NOW

If you have completed STEP 1 and STEP 2 above, that’s great! You’re ready to sign-up for “Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow” and have all the tools you need to help you along the way.

A unique coaching programme like this has immense long-term quality of life value.

How can you put a price upon re-parenting yourself and having a better relationship with your father (whether he is alive or has passed away)?

The benefits will be a calmer happier life for you, your partner and any children you may have!

Think about the time and cost involved in 6 months of one-to-one weekly psychotherapy…at an average of £75 an hour that’d cost you around £2,000!

(Counselling alone won’t give you the tools and structure to enable this level of transformation. This type of work requires specific advanced level knowledge and skills from a trained, experienced and competent psychotherapist)

The full price investment for this life-transforming 3 month coaching programme is only £597

 

If you would like to pay by three installments of £200 (total £600)  then we can arrange this.

REMEMBER: THIS PRICE INCLUDES 8 TELEPHONE OR SKYPE SESSIONS WITH ME ALONG THE WAY – one at the end of each module.

*We’ll also have an additional introductory/assessment session beforehand to ensure that this programme is appropriate and of most benefit to you. This two-hour in person session has an additional cost.

Ideally we will meet in person (locally to me)  in which case my fee is £200 (£100 an hour) – plus any additional time and travel costs. 

If we can’t do this due to geographical distance between us then we can use Skype – at a cost of £200 for two hours. 

 

Lets make this your time for transformational healing and empowerment!

 

If you can already see how much this programme is going to change your relationship with your father then please e-mail me now and we can arrange a time to speak more about it  

maxine@maxineharley.com 

 

P.S. When you join this Cast Off Your Father’s Shadow ™ programme, you’ll have a set of tools at your disposal, and be all prepared and ready to ease the pain of spending time with your dad. Imagine coming away from him feeling completely empowered, strong and calm, instead of the feelings of hurt and anger that you so have often experienced over the years!

Let’s now work together to release your inner child from your father’s grasp, to empower you to detoxify from his poison and to become vibrant and free to live life on your own terms!

Maxine Harley (MSc Psychotherapy)
Author, online columnist/ featured expert, former foster-carer, mother and grandmother

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N.B If you are suffering from a chronic or acute mental health problem, or extreme trauma reactions from excessive and recurring physical and/or sexual abuse, then this therapeutic coaching programme may not offer you the depth and frequency of contact you might need. In that case the emotional containment of one-to-one longer-term psychotherapy would be better suited to you. If you are feeling suicidal then please seek medical help immediately by contacting your GP or hospital.